Jessica Hover
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The Truth about Early Parenthood: Why I am obsessed with helping new moms
In this more intimate video, I open up about the raw realities of early parenthood and share why I am so deeply committed to supporting new moms on their journey. As a recent survivor of cancer and someone who has faced my own mental health battles, I understand the unique and complicated challenges that come with being a parent. I delve into the struggles that new mothers face and why they are often set up for an uphill battle. Through my own experiences and recovery journey, I have found a renewed passion for helping moms not just survive, but thrive in this demanding stage of life. Join me as I share my personal story, my dedication to empowering mothers, and my unwavering belief in their strength and resilience. Let's come together to support and uplift one another in this incredible journey of motherhood.
If you are due in August or September join my next coaching group that begins Friday, July 5th at 3:30 PST ♥️ verygoodmothersclub.com/pages/coaching
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Follow the podcast: @verygoodenoughpod
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Cervical Cancer: My Journey and Healing After Partial Hysterectomy
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Hi friends 🌼 In this heartfelt video, I open up about my recent journey through surgery, including a partial hysterectomy due to cervical cancer, vaginal repair for prolapse, and hernia surgery, just two months ago. I want to express my deepest gratitude to all my friends, family and subscribers for your incredible support, whether through generous gifts, kind words, touching stories, or contri...
How to stop waiting and start loving your life right now.
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In this episode, Jess and Layne face one burning question: how can you truly love your life RIGHT NOW? We discuss the trap of waiting for our circumstances to change before we can live a life we love and our tendency to overlook our wins, constantly moving the goalposts, missing the opportunity to celebrate our accomplishments. From recognizing the dreams you've already achieved (like becoming ...
Be Direct | Cut through the parenting buzzwords and connect with your toddler
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In this episode, we dive into the importance of being direct and clear when communicating with your toddler. Say goodbye to the endless search for the "right" parenting language or trying to follow every expert's advice. We discuss why using straightforward language and saying what you mean can strengthen your connection with your child, build trust, and reduce frustration for both of you. Disc...
Failing Forward | How to embrace failure and grow as a parent
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Are you afraid of failing as a parent? Jess and Layne get real about their deep fears of public failure and share wisdom on why failing fast is a gift. We explore how being willing to fail is essential for building the lives we want, and why falling is a non-negotiable part of learning. Jess shares how feelings of failure during postpartum led her to create UA-cam videos documenting her journey...
Less-Gentle Parenting | How to be the calm leader your toddler craves
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This week Layne and Jess discuss the trend of gentle parenting content on social media that might be missing the mark. Is it sometimes just permissive parenting in disguise? We explore why strong leadership and clear boundaries are crucial for raising happy and secure children. We get into why toddlers might secretly be RELIEVED when you tell them "no", and how setting limits with love actually...
Body Image Revisited | How to live FULLY in whatever body you have
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Body Image Revisited | How to live FULLY in whatever body you have In this authentic (and kind of messy conversation), Jess and Layne revisit our exploration of body image. We ask questions like, "What does it truly mean to be sexy?" and, "How can women cultivate genuine confidence?" Jess shares a profound realization from experiencing cancer: how precious it is to be alive in a body, irrespect...
Cervical Cancer Update - surgery tomorrow!
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Thank you so much for supporting our family ❤️gofund.me/1669e86b Surgery is April 5 at 9:30am. Will update more after!! See you on instagram! @jess_hover @verygoodmothersclub Join Very Good Mothers Club for more friendship, guidance, and weekly Zoom calls! verygoodmothersclubhouse.com
More Than Memes - the internet gets parenthood wrong. Claire Edwards (my FAV TikTok momfluencer)
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We had the BEST time talking to Claire Edwards, mom of two known for being very funny on TikTok, about why the internet's negative portrayal of parenting isn't telling the whole story. Claire opens up about how scared she was to become mom because the internet made it look terrible (think: videos of moms having a breakdown in the Target parking lot). Claire shares why she's loving motherhood in...
Childcare vs. Mom | Debunking Myths & Finding the Perfect Fit for Your Child
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Is daycare bad for my child? This episode tackles common childcare concerns like developmental benefits and choosing the right program. We explore the effects of childcare at different ages, from infancy to preschool, and answer your burning questions: • Does preschool impact school readiness? • What's the difference between daycare and preschool? • What questions to ask when choosing a program...
How to Overcome People Pleasing and Get Your Needs Met | YOU MATTER.
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Do you get praised for being "easy" or "going with the flow" but deep down, feel exhausted? Us, too. In this episode, we explore the hidden costs of people pleasing. We discuss how this behavior is rooted in childhood experiences and the belief that our needs are a burden. We unpack the connection between people pleasing and codependency, and how we often absorb discomfort to keep others happy....
Toddlers Cannot Share | How forced sharing leads to people pleasing
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Toddlers Cannot Share | How forced sharing leads to people pleasing
Cervical Cancer Update - Hysterectomy countdown begins
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Cervical Cancer Update - Hysterectomy countdown begins
Whole Brain Child | How to Boost Your Child’s Brain Development
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Whole Brain Child | How to Boost Your Child’s Brain Development
Reclaiming Your Identity | Quigley Goode on Motherhood, Mental Health & Creativity
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Reclaiming Your Identity | Quigley Goode on Motherhood, Mental Health & Creativity
I Want to Believe in Myself | How to Have Faith in Your Life Direction
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I Want to Believe in Myself | How to Have Faith in Your Life Direction
Oncologist appointment update + hysterectomy date set.
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Oncologist appointment update hysterectomy date set.
2 months since my cancer diagnosis, have not seen an oncologist yet. Update.
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2 months since my cancer diagnosis, have not seen an oncologist yet. Update.
Cervical Cancer: Will I be doing my own hysterectomy too?
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Cervical Cancer: Will I be doing my own hysterectomy too?
Rules Are Dumb | How to teach your kids more effectively + easily
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Rules Are Dumb | How to teach your kids more effectively easily
I have cervical cancer.
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I have cervical cancer.
Let Kids Be Small: Why NOW matters more than the future
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Let Kids Be Small: Why NOW matters more than the future
Too Much "Yes" | How to break the cycle of toddler overindulgence
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Too Much "Yes" | How to break the cycle of toddler overindulgence
Christmas Best Of | How to make the most of the holiday season with kids
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Christmas Best Of | How to make the most of the holiday season with kids
Life after loss ❤️‍🩹 - Very Good Enough podcast
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Life after loss ❤️‍🩹 - Very Good Enough podcast
Time Spell 💫 | How to make time slow down when life gets too busy
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Time Spell 💫 | How to make time slow down when life gets too busy
Difficult Discussions | How to be honest with kids about the hard stuff. Very Good Enough Podcast
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Difficult Discussions | How to be honest with kids about the hard stuff. Very Good Enough Podcast
Decision Fatigue | How to make everyday choices and not burn out
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Decision Fatigue | How to make everyday choices and not burn out
Healthy Instinctive Anger | Dr. Sam Rader on using anger to fuel your life
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Healthy Instinctive Anger | Dr. Sam Rader on using anger to fuel your life
Are We Cool Yet? | How Beyonce is changing our perception of motherhood
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Are We Cool Yet? | How Beyonce is changing our perception of motherhood

КОМЕНТАРІ

  • @Dana-mb1hd
    @Dana-mb1hd День тому

    You 2 help me TREMENDOUSLY thank you both ❤ I feel less alone because of you 2

  • @Dana-mb1hd
    @Dana-mb1hd День тому

    Jess ❤ I love your energy in this video! Honestly I really struggled mentally these last few years- my daughter is 3. You help me feel understood and not alone thank you ❤

  • @innakozyr1
    @innakozyr1 2 дні тому

    Jess, you’re such an inspiration ❤Hi from Ukraine ☀️

  • @dianx93
    @dianx93 2 дні тому

    Quit folding, use baskets!

  • @lauriewromar5478
    @lauriewromar5478 2 дні тому

    Love that your still making content like this. I haven’t stumbled upon a short of yours before, but when I was in the trenches with a newborn, your UA-cam channel saved me many times. I was one of those moms that had a tremendously difficult time bonding with my newborn. The guilt, insecurity, anxiety and all around stress, wrapped up in that world, is a hard one to bare. I wanted to talk about it to other mothers but found it hard to find anyone who’d also been there or understood. Thank God for the good ole internets to bring people together. One of its positive effects. I read articles, memoirs, blogs and videos in all my spare time listening to other mothers who’d been through my same or similar experience. Your videos being some of them. Thank you for what you do, and bless you for keeping on it. I don’t have any sort of platform, but love to write about my experience. If you ever want any stories from other moms, for any sort of project, feel free to reach out. ❤

  • @ashleesymcox
    @ashleesymcox 3 дні тому

    This is so good! So thankful for you!!

  • @gillb799
    @gillb799 3 дні тому

    "Drowning" is very often how I describe how I'm feeling as first time mum to a 7 month old. I love our little boy so much and am so grateful for him, I also have a loving and supportive husband and mum, but oh my gosh, this is hard and I had no idea how hard it would be despite believing we were quite well prepared. Looking forward to more of this kind of content Jess as I always come away feeling like I've had a good chat with a friend who has made me believe everything will be okay ❤ x

  • @user-dz3bg1uo7l
    @user-dz3bg1uo7l 3 дні тому

    Thank you so much for your encouragement! I love it. I would love to see some content with your husband. My husband is a stay at home dad and could use some encouragement as well.

  • @ginadelman4831
    @ginadelman4831 3 дні тому

    I’m so excited for this! I’m pregnant with identical twin boys and the transition from 1 to 3 kids is something that is a little intimidating for us. We are so excited but I know it’ll be a big leap when they’re born and out here with us. Our oldest son is a year and a half old and doesn’t understand that he has 2 little brothers coming yet 😅

  • @gailmerakis5750
    @gailmerakis5750 3 дні тому

    ❤ so true,

  • @staceyhutton5995
    @staceyhutton5995 3 дні тому

    Also on the ideas front… Ideas on how to find ways for fun/interactive moments with kids in the monotonous day to day? How to feel like your getting quality time as working mum with multiple kids

  • @staceyhutton5995
    @staceyhutton5995 3 дні тому

    I love when you just sit and chat, I’ve missed it ❤

  • @HM-hj5mc
    @HM-hj5mc 3 дні тому

    Jess, this is literally exactly what I needed to hear right now. I feel so seen and encouraged. Currently up pumping at 3am. I had my first baby recently and she's almost a month old right now. It's been so hard. I love my sweet girl so much but I don't love being a mom just yet and the learning curve is so huge. It feels impossible at times to learn everything. I know the sleep deprivation and hormone changes make it hard too. It also has been difficult dealing with breastfeeding struggles, postpartum preeclampsia, and postpartum depression and anxiety. We had some extra things thrown at us. I feel like the first two weeks of her life I was in such a fog and just trying to survive I didn't bond as well with her, especially after going back in to the hospital. I spent many nights crying and telling my husband I can't do this, it's too hard. Thankfully things are starting to feel better slowly. I've been a long time viewer. I love these types of videos--sit down chats, motivational chats, whatever you want to call them. They're my favorite type of video you make! You have the gift of encouragement and it's not the first time a video of yours has been super timely in my life.

  • @hconf
    @hconf 3 дні тому

    I LOVED this. I think we all have the scuba gear inside of us. We sometimes need to be reminded that it exists but it’s already within us.

  • @mmoto22
    @mmoto22 3 дні тому

    Wow i felt so supported by you in this video. Thank you! (First time mom of an almost 9mo).

  • @rsvpevents6780
    @rsvpevents6780 3 дні тому

    Eloise is so smart.. brown chair always full of laundry, just get rid of the chair! 😂

  • @ryannanderson5674
    @ryannanderson5674 3 дні тому

    Would really love to hear your take on how to stick with work that is important and meaningful, even when it doesn’t feel like it’s paying the bills. I struggle with this! Thankful for your content!

  • @katelinabercrombie491
    @katelinabercrombie491 3 дні тому

    I love this metaphor ❤ i started watching you when i was pregnant with my first, 4 years ago, and you and your sweet perspective have always made me feel like i can do this and we're all going to be ok. 😅

  • @allanahhickey556
    @allanahhickey556 3 дні тому

    I needed this. My son turns 1 next week and I got the shock of my life at how hard it actually is. I was so unprepared

  • @nicolesteffen3776
    @nicolesteffen3776 3 дні тому

    I found you years ago when my daughter now 3 had bad reflux! Love your chill style. Currently 6 wks prego with a toddler and have been really struggling. Trying to remember this phase w pass

  • @jessicaa.m.harper1727
    @jessicaa.m.harper1727 3 дні тому

    So excited for more content like this! The analogy of drowning but being given the equipment to scuba dive is perfect. I began watching your channel to prepare while pregnant, and now my daughter is 7 months old. It has been hard work! Harder than I expected. But so very worth it.

  • @heatherm.5917
    @heatherm.5917 3 дні тому

    Glad you are back!!!

  • @noramalik9348
    @noramalik9348 3 дні тому

    Yeah. I just love you. I'm so glad you're better, Jess❤

  • @capslovesit
    @capslovesit 3 дні тому

    I for one am down for this content! Loved the scuba analogy

    • @jess_hover
      @jess_hover 3 дні тому

      You’re the best ❤️❤️❤️

  • @RosssR
    @RosssR 4 дні тому

    Please do make other content apart from the podcast, the podcast is great but this feels like we get more of you and your point of view in life ❤

    • @jess_hover
      @jess_hover 3 дні тому

      I will! Thank you so much ❤️ Is there anything you want me to talk about?

    • @RosssR
      @RosssR 3 дні тому

      @@jess_hover I think topics like these could be good for many of us: making time for your relationship while parenting, budgeting for fun activities with children, more of Shaun's day with the kids (those videos are always hilarious 😂), mom self care, how parenting has changed for you at the different ages, the transition from 2-3 kids (I think you did 1-2 but not 2-3) and what to expect, how you choose holidays and what to do that's not too expensive but is still fun... I know those are all a lot but genuinely all are relevant to me still drowning in motherhood, I'd love the oxygen tank just about now 😂

    • @capslovesit
      @capslovesit 3 дні тому

      @@RosssR I love the suggestion on how parenting has changed for you at different ages!

  • @mrsshelbycobraa
    @mrsshelbycobraa 4 дні тому

    Welcome back! I’m so happy you are doing well! You helped me through my pregnancy so much. I was pregnant with my first baby in 2020 during Covid. I had to go through it pretty much alone and your videos helped me be less afraid. Thank you!

    • @jess_hover
      @jess_hover 3 дні тому

      Aw thank you! That must have been so hard for you, I am grateful we were in it together! Thank you for taking a moment to leave a sweet comment ❤️

  • @breevestrand
    @breevestrand 4 дні тому

    So excited you’re back! I’ve been watching you since I was pregnant with my first baby in 2020. These were my favorite videos and I was so sad when you stopped making them. You helped me so much especially when you had Jules since we both had 2 under 2 at the same time 😅

    • @jess_hover
      @jess_hover 3 дні тому

      Yay! Thank you! Aww we really have been in it together!! It means a lot to know you like watching my videos! I appreciate it!!

    • @breevestrand
      @breevestrand 3 дні тому

      @@jess_hover can you share more potty training tips? My 3 year old son is stubborn and refuses to go. 🙃

  • @erinvinzon1418
    @erinvinzon1418 4 дні тому

    I’m crying, I’m so excited and thankful for this and the timing of it all. I’ve followed you for years and you’ve always provided such a peaceful mindset for me. I’m pregnant with our third now and couldn’t be more grateful for the timing of your content coming back in this way!

    • @jess_hover
      @jess_hover 3 дні тому

      You're the best! Congratulations!! It helps me to know that this kind of content is still helpful! For a while there my views were low and I was getting confused, feeling like maybe it wasn’t helpful anymore 🩷 thank you for taking the time to comment!

  • @RaqC1891
    @RaqC1891 4 дні тому

    So excited! Been watching your videos for years. Just had my first baby boy in April and can really use your encouraging words!

    • @jess_hover
      @jess_hover 3 дні тому

      Aw wow congratulations!! Encouraging words will be coming for you ❤️❤️ thank you for commenting so I can know who I am talking to!

  • @ashleighbutler9858
    @ashleighbutler9858 4 дні тому

    My husband and I both work remote. A 2 year old, and 5 month old. Wow it is hard!!!!! Tips to survive? No money for a babysitter, no family lives close.

    • @jess_hover
      @jess_hover 3 дні тому

      Oooof it is so hard! I relate and will definitely share anything that has helped keep us afloat!! Sending love!

    • @shlowee5214
      @shlowee5214 3 дні тому

      We’re in the same boat! No advice or anything but wanted to say I’m here with you!

  • @cityflyer12
    @cityflyer12 4 дні тому

    Looking great Jessica

  • @kristynspon8070
    @kristynspon8070 4 дні тому

    I choose to love motherhood. I chose this. I made the concious decision to be a mother. I embrace the good the bad that comes with it. I will never not love it.

  • @josephpope3467
    @josephpope3467 4 дні тому

    It would be so nice if you could read the caption

    • @SarahRichardsGraba
      @SarahRichardsGraba 4 дні тому

      Do you mean the text on the screen? It reads: "Dear new moms, It's okay if you love your babies, but don't love being a mom yet. It's complicated. 💛" The video is of the content creator and her daughter spinning around and laughing

  • @TheresaMarie9
    @TheresaMarie9 4 дні тому

    Beautiful happy girls :) Thank you from the bottom of my heart for the amazing work you do. My 2 year old and I are thriving thanks in part to the support and wisdom you impart in your videos and podcasts ❤

    • @jess_hover
      @jess_hover 3 дні тому

      Awww thank you! This means so much to me ❤️

  • @randomshorts6862
    @randomshorts6862 5 днів тому

    Its ok at 30 Im working hard so that at age 45 I can be the President of the USA 🇺🇸 and save people like you I was you once but I had family by my side it is ok were all here for each other I promise to do my best to change things if I manage to get in there 😅 😊

  • @shaundahaug5631
    @shaundahaug5631 6 днів тому

    I have two moms too

  • @user-fb8uw1ui5x
    @user-fb8uw1ui5x 6 днів тому

    I pray for you Jess 🙏❤️🙏❤️...

  • @MelissaCassie
    @MelissaCassie 7 днів тому

    Watching us is like stabbing a needle in my eye. This is not what first time parenting is. This is my first time rich bitch Karen, who probably has a nanny and husband first time parenting is.

  • @cuisineallfuntravelnetwork8615
    @cuisineallfuntravelnetwork8615 8 днів тому

    God is always good

  • @janiceg8120
    @janiceg8120 8 днів тому

    Motherhood just feels like constant failure to me bc I had a colicky baby and now he doesn’t sleep , has to be constantly held during naps and at night - co sleeping still and he’s 7 months . The constant crying made me feel insane and powerless and I got absolutely no help from anyone except 5 weeks from my finance and then when he went back to work I was on my own . Every night , every feeding , every bath , it’s me. And I didn’t think it would be like this . And just wishing I was a better mom like all the women on social media . The only good thing I’ve managed to do was exclusively breastfeed which I’m still doing . Other than that I’m a freaking failure . He’s so beautiful and happy and I love him so much . I feel like he deserves a perfect Instagram mom. I just didn’t know I would be so bad at this and that I would be doing it all alone . I honestly feel shame for the first time in my life .

  • @osmoregulatoryorgan
    @osmoregulatoryorgan 10 днів тому

    We have pretty much given up on gentle parenting. We are all so tense and sleep-deprived. It's so hard. This is what I need to hear.

  • @zero____76
    @zero____76 10 днів тому

    The way she demonstrated that she can wave to friends gave sims vibes 😂

  • @linen62
    @linen62 11 днів тому

    So happy for your health. All the best ❤❤❤❤

  • @angelcarroll2926
    @angelcarroll2926 12 днів тому

    I’m trying to convince myself and my husband to move to Europe after I get my teaching degree and a couple years of experience

  • @StephanieWalters-nk9te
    @StephanieWalters-nk9te 13 днів тому

    As a mom living in South Africa it is the norm for us to put our babies in daycare as young as 4 months and then we work 8+ hours a day. This video has been so helpful knowing that the feeding/sleeping schedule at night is something I am getting right! But also our schools are so amazing because it is just what most moms have to do here and kids get homecooked meals, healthy snacks and naps at school. Mom guilt is so real and it is helpful to hear that there is always something we can do to "compensate" for what life is causing us to have to do.

  • @miraturner6333
    @miraturner6333 14 днів тому

    Thank you for the update Jess. You look wonderful, and its great to see you doing so well!

  • @diarrheaexpress9672
    @diarrheaexpress9672 17 днів тому

    Hey- at darknet one man gives 230.000 $ for this kid. He saw it at darknet offer, but there is only link to your YT channel, and offer of sale- what is real price ?

  • @louisepeens7006
    @louisepeens7006 17 днів тому

    The audio on this video is a bit low, but thanks for making videos you help so much

  • @moncrinu
    @moncrinu 17 днів тому

    You look amazing! Thank you very much for sharing your experience and glad to see you're doing so well again ♥️

  • @6foot8jesuspilledpureblood82
    @6foot8jesuspilledpureblood82 17 днів тому

    No doubt that jas destroyed you being fatherless. No need to compensate. Just be real. You were abused